A Step Back. Look Forward

I have a friend who is working in a successful Vietnamese company. She has a great work ethic I have ever seen from a woman. She is hustling and persevering in any thing she works on. An determination is unstoppable. However, I received a text on Facebook yesterday and she said to me that she wanted to quit. She was tired and burnt out...

Admitting to give up something that you tried so hard is hard. I hate to give up too, but it is true that building and stretching yourself are always painful and uncomfortable, isn't it? The work has trained her through many challenges and she has learned from the job a lot. Conversely, she doesn't have much time for family and herself. She sacrificed her personal life and happiness.

I stop writing and thinking about her and talk to myself, "I am much happier than her right now to sit down here ... a summer day ... in California and do my writing. I feel so selfish for myself that I am enjoying something that I like to do and she is suffering..."

How can I help her?

I think crisis is always a good time to step back to take a look again and question yourself,
"What is important? Money, happiness, or passion."
"What will make my life happier or worth living more?"
"How will I measure my life?"

Everybody plays a game tradeoff daily. We have to lose something to get something, but I won't trade anything for my happiness. I think taking a step back is necessary for anybody in life to recognize what they are missing and then trying to find missing pieces in their puzzles of life. I don't know how to help her and I cannot decide that giving up or not giving up is a good choice. The only thing I know for sure is whether she gives up or she doesn't give up is I will always support her. If one door is closed, the other doors will be opened.

Finally, I want to end this discussion by a YouTube Video from the speaker, Clayton Christensen, "He is a Harvard Business School professor and world-renowned innovation guru, examines the daily decision that define our lives and encourage all of us to think about what is truly important." (quoted from the introduction of the video).